01 August 2012

You Didn't Write That


Can you imagine if someone told you this about something you wrote, a creation that came from your hard work? But, someone allowed you the time to write, gave you an opportunity to lock yourself away so you could produce that piece of work. Someone helped you along the way, somewhere. That's THEIR book.

You have to understand this concept, don't you?



I'm going to jump on the bandwagon here. This post is inspired by Obama's unpopular speech in Roanoke, Va. My husband was born there and he grew up there so we watched intently. Did Obama really say that? "That business, you didn't build that. Other people did, tax dollars built that."

Okay, let me calm my mother down. She's fixing to turn over in her grave. Wait, she's in an urn on my mantle. Forget that.

Let me explain.

My mother didn't speak a bit of English when she came to this country after marrying my father. She raised us kids and was a stay at home mother. However, when my parents' marriage went on the decline, my mother decided she had to work and make her own income. My father eventually left her for a younger woman and she had to work two other part time jobs in order to take care of three children.

The restaurant where my mother worked allowed employee discounts on food, so we ate a lot of Japanese food and my mother saved up enough money (over a period of 5 years) to purchase the restaurant. She worked at her own restaurant as a cook because this helped her to keep the business running efficiently and cost effectively. She owned her business for 25 years, until she developed cancer and died in September of 2006.

Did she build this business? You're damned straight she did!

Did she drive to work on roads built with tax dollars? Yes. Did she PAY taxes? Yes. So, she paid tax dollars that built roads she used to drive her ass to work, to HER business.

Sorry, mom. I promise I won't vote for this man!

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  1. I am probably not going to vote for him either, but I have to say I do not believe that his intent was to belittle the hard work and sacrifices of your mother and so so many others. He was just trying to say that peoples success in this country is in part because our government allows, encourages and facilatates the hard earned successes of people like your mom. He just said it very very badly and left soundbites which really do not go over very well. I can't believe I am even writing this, I am just upset with how our leaders are chosen over sound bites and minor incidents and issues and not over the totality of their positions and experience. The media and the press do it to both sides....OK, I am definatly not going to vote for President Obama either but for many many other reasons.

    Your mom sounds like quite a Lady!

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    1. Thanks, Joeh! My mom was a funny lady too. She was in love with Bill O'Reilly of all people and she goes, "I just have a crush on him. I don't know what he means most of the time when he's talking, but he's just so confident." LOL

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  2. Don't make me cry. I totally see your point. Politics is politics and politicians will say anything to get ahead. Don't take it to heart because you're too young to be joining your mom.

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    1. Thanks! I know it's the media and they do what they do. I have to turn the television off anymore. But DOH, now there's Youtube. :D

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  3. I try not to comment on anything political, so I'll just echo joeh and say your mom sounds like a great lady. :)

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    1. Thanks Kelly! She enjoyed being the queen of her castle at work too. :)

      I miss the food!

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  4. Like Joeh,I don't think he intended to dismiss the hard work of everyday people put forth in building businesses. It just came out badly. Don't get me wrong. I don't like everything Obama has done either. Gutting the space program really rubs me the wrong way. Unfortunately I can't vote for Romney because his social policies make me want to vomit.

    I wish we had a viable third option. The two party system is a load of junk, in my opinion.

    Politics makes me angry.

    But yes, your mom sounds amazing. We need more people like that.

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    1. The title of my post comes from my husband. In poking fun he goes (of my WIP), "You didn't write that!"

      Now it's become a joke whenever we go to lunch with people, "You didn't order that, someone else made you think you ordered it, the power of suggestion. That person ordered that meal you're eating."

      Okay, that's just going too far. :D

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  5. This is more than politics. This is about the American Dream, self relience; the drive and determination to make a better life for yourself and your family. Barack Obama has made it clear many times, and very clearly in this recent Roanoke speech that he is not for the individual, it is about the collective- you know, spreading the wealth. Obama is a big government guy. I see no reason to pussy foot around this topic- it is too important.

    If Obama is reelected there will be fewer success stories like Diane's mom because almighty government will take take take more more more.

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    1. Hi, Lynn! At my job, whenever I roll out a software project, even though I created it, I include the reviewers who approved it, the people who write the documentation, the people who implement it. We all didn't build it, we just all had a hand in seeing it come to fruition. I did build it, yes. But many business owners thank the workers who helped them make it. Flexible hours, Christmas bonuses, and raises when merited.

      They do this when they can. The economy sucks and many of us haven't seen a pay raise in years, yet prices are going up. That's a whole other issue. My mother didn't get to witness any of that. I don't think her business would have stayed afloat during these times. I had to close it down after she died and today the land which once had erected a thriving business is a parking lot. :(

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  6. It may have been clumsy, but he spoke the truth. We are social creatures after all. Your mom was one of many tax payers that contributed to building and maintaining that road. She can feel proud about the work she did as well as the sacrifices, but she did not do it in a vacuum. And the myth of self-reliance is just that, a myth (unless you are a survivalist out in the boonies hunting your own food, making your own weapons and logins) used by many to justify their selfish ways.

    Sorry for the rant, but I could not pass up a chance to set the record straight on this.

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    1. It is an argument that both sides will play during this election, and many, many more! You're right, she didn't do it in a vacuum, but she did it with pride. I think that is the distinguishing factor here. I don't think people disagree with his concept at all.

      He's right, we all built this country together, on the backbones of our past generations who also worked hard. The public frenzy on his choice of words is what causes people to take up arms. He chose words which were meant to be divisive. I believe that is what many small business owners are angry about.

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  7. Diane, thanks for popping into my blog today. I had actually stopped by here the other day, but something came up and I couldn't leave a comment.

    As I read your post, all I could do was nod my head in agreement. I am sick and tired of the "collective" mentality.

    Like your mother, I didn't know English either. My father worked three jobs so he could send his kids to private school. He was a waiter and worked like a dog to the end of his days. Some say he had nothing. But that would be incorrect. He raised six children without a penny of government assistance--on a waiter's salary, mind you. Everyone of us was university trained and graduated with highest honors.

    We are his legacy and I want to make him proud. To hell with government handouts. I am living proof you can make it on your own.

    I am proud of your mother and proud of you for speaking your mind.

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    1. Aww, thanks Maria. And congratulations on graduating with honors! I didn't have the best GPA (3.75) with a B.S. in Computer Science, but you know, I'm really proud that I went through it. I feel like it's a test of your endurance and fortitude, which I fear more and more people are lacking as time goes by.

      I honestly think the reason it's lacking in more people is because of this whole notion of entitlement. Once given handouts, they become things which are expected. When we stop giving because we can't afford it anymore, we're the bad guys.

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  8. Nothing anyone says can take away the pride you have for your mother's hard work and accomplishments. She's sounds like a great mother.

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    1. Thanks Deb! She was, and I'm thankful that the whole experience taught me to work hard too. :)

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  9. Your mom sounds like a great person, and reminds me very much of my family when we immigrated to the states as well. My parents bought a Chinese restaurant and worked long hours so their children could attend schools. I was only five when we moved, but not a day passes where I don't stop to think of their sacrifices for the family. Your story only inspires me to be more grateful.

    The Obama part has (and will have) so much debate about it. Personally, I think it's an ill-executed statement on a great idea: that each individual is accountable for their success and failure, but also for other's as well. E pluribus unum, am I right? Still better than Romney's history, I feel.

    But, then again, I can't vote! Haha...So, I'll just be grateful for my parents/ :)

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  10. Awesome, Jacky! America is the land of opportunity if you work hard enough. :)

    Thanks for stopping by and leaving your comment. My family and friends tell me they enjoy the comments from different people, sometimes more than my actual blog entries. LOL

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